The Relationship Between States of Being
In Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), “state” refers to a person’s subjective experience of self and the world at a certain time. Positive states include happiness and relaxation; negative states include anger, sadness, and guilt.
A person’s state elicits different behaviors and reactions to the same situation. For example, the person in a happy state who missed an appointment might apologize and request another meeting. A person in a depressed state who missed an appointment might blame the traffic. A person in a depressed state who missed the appointment might be self-critical.
States are associated or dissociated. In an associated state, a person experiences self and the world from a feeling of happiness. In a disassociated state, the person sees the self being happy as if watching a movie. There are times when each state is appropriate. The challenge is to choose wisely.
NLP Strategies in the Treatment of Addiction
There are many NLP strategies to use when managing a person’s state. We will discuss four: Dissociation, The New Behavior Generator, Association, and Anchoring.
A person uses dissociation to see the “big picture,” to see the self in relation to others, and to step out of negative feelings. The following actions can be used to dissociate:
a. What is this about?
New Behavior Generator
Dissociation is used with the New Behavior Generator, as well. Steps of the strategy are as follows:
Association is used to experience positive feelings or to amplify an experience using other submodalities. The following three questions can be asked to facilitate association:
a. How do I feel in this situation?
I use association to anchor a client. Anchors trigger specific physiological or emotional states or behaviors – in other words, they are an automatic reaction. Anchors happen unintentionally, like the way a song evokes the memory of an old friend, or they are created intentionally. For instance, a person can pinch his or her ear while recalling a feeling of confidence and apply that feeling in a new situation.
Hypothetical Case – Client Excessively Smoking Weed
Tonya sought counseling with me for her marijuana use. She has a prescription for medical marijuana and smoking does alleviate her chronic anxiety. Even so, she wants to learn strategies for lessening the anxiety without using drugs. She is concerned about the long-term effects of smoking and becoming addicted.
Because Tonya’s anxiety seems to trigger pot smoking, I focused on her anxiety in an initial attempt to resolve the presenting issue.
After building rapport, I completed an assessment based on NLP strategies, identified the positive intent of the marijuana use, and asked specific questions.
Initially, I taught Tonya ways to dissociate. She decided to:
– Talk to someone.
To help Tonya strengthen her new behavior and remain motivated, I taught her about association. We explored the following questions regarding positive events in her life.
a. How did she feel in the situation?
I then taught Tonya how to create an empowering anchor.
There was more work to do but this was a start.
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